There’s a Rejection Hotline Website that has numbers all over the US and Canada, but being that we’re mostly Canadian here, I’m re-publishing the ones from Canada:

613-686-3620 Ottawa, Canada
647-476-4910 Toronto, Canada
778-786-8557 Vancouver, Canada
780-669-5270 Edmonton, Canada
905-963-0318 Hamilton, Canada
514-667-0361 Montreal, Canada
519-488-2355 London, Canada
250-984-0686 Victoria, Canada
403-775-9982 Calgary, Canada
204-272-3976 Winnipeg, Canada

Its good to know these numbers because if you get a phone number, you might want to to make sure that you didn’t get one of these instead of the real deal. That will save you the wasted time preparing for the phone call. Remember, there are other rejection hotlines out there, so just cuz its not on this list doesn’t mean you didn’t get rejected!

Bad Boys vs. Players vs. Nice Guys
Nice Guys finish Last. Everyone knows this, and this is true. In this world you need to go for what you want, and not wait for it to go for you. Especially with women. The Bad Boy and the Player are often confused, especially by women… which makes this even more difficult to distinguish.

Bad Boys
Why do women like Bad Boys? Women like bad boys because they give them a sense of security and safety. A man who is perceived as stronger and more aggressive is one that can protect her. And this is true on many levels. A bad boy is a guy that is not too nice, or perceived as a wuss, but one that is not untrue and only seeking to use the girl either. The problem with this is that some but not all Players are Bad Boys as well, which makes the distinction difficult. Bad Boys that are not Players will respect and love women as people, whereas Players do not. The Bad Boy is the perceived Alpha Male.

Players
Players are there to get women in bed, and that is their ultimate goal. Anything that they do is meant to facilitate this end. They will mess with the girl’s head, try anything and everything to impress her, and sometimes this means creating a Bad Boy image, as it attracts women. Players do NOT respect women, they see them as objects. A Player and a Bad Boy are two very different distinctions.

Nice Guys
Nice Guys have the unfortunate reputation of being weak, while not always necessarily true. Women perceive this as being less desirable than the stronger alpha male. While women like to befriend the nice guy because he is indeed nice, they do not want to procreate with him because he is not seen as the strongest mate, as she is seeking to create the strongest offspring.

So what’s a guy to do?
Well.. if you’re a Nice Guy, you’ll probably eventually a find a girl, but you’ll probably find one that is a bit more aggressive, to compliment your personality. If you’re a Bad Boy, then you’ll probably find you have the majority of women to pick from, as women in general tend to be more submissive than men. When you are the alpha male, women want you. And women want, what other women want. They are funny creatures.

Quite often people talk about how many dates does it take for a woman to have sex with you, and often that number is said to be “three“.

In my experience, it can range anywhere from 1 date to 5 or 6 dates. With an average length of 3 hours per date, that is 3 – 18 hours. But that’s for me. I think having any sort of average is pretty useless, however, since every girl is different. The biggest difference with guys and girls is not that the guys want to have sex and the girls don’t, its that when the guys have sex they don’t feel cheap or used, and the girls often do when it’s early in the relationship. Usually they want it just as much as the guy does!

At any rate, I think stats like these are really pointless, as they often guide guys into making the wrong decisions. The most important thing is to read the lady’s response, and act accordingly. Sounds like common sense, but sometimes in the heat (or cold) of the moment, common sense goes out the window.

The emails range from very conservative to straight-up offensive, depending on the choices you make to generate this break up email. Its a neat site, and a funny idea.. check it out if you are bored: http://www.breakupemail.com

Valentines day isn’t about convincing your special someone that you care or about getting them something expensive it’s about letting them know you appreciate them. Your relationship is probably in a sorry state if you have to use expensive gifts and a special day to make your girlfriend realize you still care. Valentines day should be about appreciating the people in your life who make it special. So go buy your girlfriend some of her favorite flowers and spend a little time with her. Try actually listening to her and telling her how much you care. It might not be a fancy ring but doesn’t she deserve to know just how special she is, even just for one day. Cause thats what it’s all about guys. It’s not about getting out of trouble or spending money. It’s not about getting crazy freaky sex that she would usually be completely against. It’s about making someone else realize even for one day that they are loved. So go out there this year and make that someone special know just how special they are.

We all headed out to Starbucks around 10:30 to have a coffee and chill for 30 minutes… then Shannon (my girlfriend) and I came home. Se wanted to give me my birthday presents, which consisted of two knives, and a bath bomb. Now those of you that know me, know that I am a huge knife collector and also run a website on custom tactical knives, so buying a knife for me can be a daunting task for a girlfriend. Shannon decided she would buy me a couple, and was very nervous about buying them for me.

The knives I collect are very expensive so she felt a bit awkward giving me knives that aren’t really as expensive as the stuff I typically collect, since she is a student and can’t afford to buy me lucrative gifts (but that still doesn’t always stop her – she got me a $100 Black Hearts Brigade t-shirt too).

The first knife was a nice CRKT Side Hawg knife:

Its pretty cool. I like it quite a bit. The second knife she got me is a Gigand Stallion:

They’re both really nice knives and I am very happy that she gave them to me, but I made the mistake of saying that I used to have one of the Gigand Stallions before, and she was pretty embarassed and got very upset… I didn’t realize that the statement would have the impact that it did. I regretted saying that. I also had a funny look on my face when I saw the box since I knew what it was – not good to have. From this experience, I have learned something that I want to share with other guys out there.

Guys Moral of the Story – When your girlfriend takes a risk and spends her hard-earned money to buy you a gift that is something you are passionate about, let her know that you appreciate her effort and that you see that she put a lot of thought and love into the gift.

In my case, I should have never made light of the fact that I had one of those knives before. She immediately got the impression that it was a stupid gift since I had already had one before. Combined with the fact that I typically collect knives in the $400+ range, she felt like her gifts weren’t good enough. But they are! I love that she took that risk and bought me a couple of knives. It wouldn’t have mattered what she got me but I’m proud to have a girl that is willing to put herself out there like that just to make me smile. And for that, I love her.